LOVE

A child was given a candy and then asked to give it back to the person that gave it to him and he did because he felt if he refuses, the giver has the right to take back his candy (for the child’s action, he was termed “good”). That same child was asked to share his candy with another child and he refused because he felt if he refuses, his candy will still be safe (to this action, he was termed “smart”).

Most of us from childhood are thought perfectly well how to reciprocate kind gesture which I think is very good. We only

want to give to a course we feel we owe an allegiance.  Our whole life revolves around ‘do me, I do you’ so all we do is all about protecting interest and this is where we lost the meaning of “love”. We mistake reciprocating kind gesture for loving. We weigh and even calculate ‘giving’ and ‘taking’. We claim to love most times but we know what we are giving and what we should be getting in return. We miss what loving really is.

To love is to sacrifice, to sacrifice is to give a part of what is yours or what you are for a cause you can’t even explain----let me call it a divine cause. Unlike reciprocating kind gesture where you know the reason why you’re giving and understand that part of your interest you’re protecting, loving don’t give you the privilege to see any interest thus you’re expecting nothing in return, not even a ‘thank you’ if possible.

Unlike reciprocating kind gesture where what you’re giving needs to be weighed and sized and is limited, in loving, your mind don’t weigh or size and anything can be sacrificed including one’s life. In some certain human unions like marriage, it is imperative to know that everything including life is what is being sacrificed to each other so you give your life to your spouse not caring if he/she is giving back his/hers---- what matters is that you are loving.

This attitude is also what we bring on the table in business. Most people are still not living their lives today because their talents look so cheap to them. “What will doing this fetch me if I give it all my time in the world?” so we look at quick remunerations instead.

 If you want to go into business and you’re already calculating your profit before you start, then it’s not your business because in your business, you are carried away with the joy of just doing it the best way you can that initially, you forget the monetary aspects of it or don’t even know if one exist. Most successful and very big business initiatives, don’t have money as part of their plans from the scratch; money is what naturally crept into the scene while they’re having fun with what they do.

Again, there is a popular saying in my country that I think is just a lip service; “I love my country”. If this statement’s meaning correlate with the statement, it will mean “I sacrifice for my country” and the big question will be “what are you sacrificing?” what is yours that you are giving without expecting any kind of recognition------- not even a ‘thank you’. What is that thing you’re giving that is like for a divine reason?